Anger Mgt
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The treatment of anger in a trance state is very different from anger management approaches for subjects in a conscious state in that the object of trance anger management is to release the original cause of the anger and re-channel the new found raw source of passion into new constructive expressions.  Traditional anger management of conscious subjects necessitates self-control and self-control mechanisms, such as counting backwards from ten to one, reminding oneself that there is always a choice between anger and rational expression, rechanneling anger into productive activity, etc.

Anger is usually fear that the subject was taught to repress.  It can stem from a simple reaction such as a parent angry at a child who won't pick up after himself.  The parent is really afraid that he has not provided a proper role model for the child that motivates the child to behave appropriately. 

When the child is an adult, he carries the parent's judgment within him.  He may get mad at a friend who doesn't send a thank you card for a wedding gift.  This hides his fear that his gift and his efforts were not appreciated because he failed to choose appropriately.

Physical Symptoms of Anger:
    Headaches, TMJ, Repititious Head Injury, High Blood Pressure, Indigestion, and Diarrhea.

Emotional Symptoms of Anger:
    Passive-Aggressive, Silence, Withdrawal, Confusion, Trancing-Out, Hypersensitivity to Touch and/or Loud Noises, Overwhelm, Eye Rolling, Cynicism, Sarcasm, Nail Biting, Boredom, Depression, Stuttering and Stammering.

Causes of Over-Reactive Aggression:
    The child was not helped to process extreme loss or trauma.
    Abusive parent ... the child chose to identify with the abuser so as not to become a victim.
    Childhood survival issues and injustice.
    Negative attention was the only attention.
    Abandonment and rejection.
    Incapable parents.
    En utero or past life-origin.
    Possession.

Causes of Under-Reactive Aggression:
    Too many should's imposed upon a child ... child learned to be good all the time ... society's idea of good.
    The child was taught that anger is weak as it represents loss of control.
    The child was not permitted to express his anger as his narcissistic parent didn't want to deal with it.
    The child was not allowed to be dissatisfied.

An angry person who behaves like a child in that he expects a parent or parents to support him needs to comprehend that he is no longer a child and that he is now old enough to be responsible for his own safety and protection.  Help the client see the purpose of having the type of parent(s) that he has.  Help him understand the benefit in releasing the belief that the parent should take care of him forever or until the parent gets it right.

Help the client give up his war with the parent.  Question him about what the parent really wants from him.  Usually the parent wants to hear that he or she was a good father or mother.

A parent who sees her child as an extension of herself often takes credit for her child's accomplishments, but blames the child for his failures.  This client benefits from a hypnotic meeting with his Universal Mother or Father.  The birth parents can then be viewed as the human guardians.

Use the Body Syndrome Theory to locate where the client's body is holding stored anger or stuck trauma relating to the origin of the stored anger.

Disconnect cords from chakras by conducting a body scan.

Use my Stuck Trauma Diagnostic Technique to Uncover the original cause of the client's rage.  See button above for an additional website page on this technique.

If the client is not ready to forgive the individuals involved in the original offense, conduct a primal purge ritual. See button above for an additional website page on these ritual acts.

You can always follow these rituals up in the following session with some "mommy and me" work.  If you are not familiar with the mommy self-acceptance work, I strongly recommend getting a copy of Superlearning 2000 by Ostrander sisters.  This book is full of great stuff and very motivating.  One of the techniques has to do with releasing anger that has resulted form parent's unreasonable expectations, be the expectations offensively low or irrationally high.  The book explains it fully, but the essence is that we go through a primal shock at the moment of our birth in that we become separated from everything that has been our sustenance and security: mom!  From that moment on, every time mom verbally or nonverbally judges us, it causes us to feel rejected and separated from her.  This activates the original primal shock of separation and causes us to feel that we do not deserve to receive love, nurturing, and security because if mom won't provide it, then who will?  Okay, you get the gist of it.  Here's how it works: You instruct your client to repeat after you the following phrases with feeling.  And no, he cannot change the word mommy to mother or mom.  Maybe mama, but nothing more grown-up than that.  The more resistant the client is to the exercise, the more effective it tends to be.  Here are the phrases:

Mommy and I are one.  (repeat three times)
I forgive mommy for expecting to much of me.  (3X)
I forgive mommy for expecting too little of me.  (3X)
I forgive myself for expecting too much of myself.  (3X)
I forgive myself for expecting too little of myself.  (3X)

It's also a good idea to teach the client to expand his or her emotional body so that the subconscious mind learns that it doesn't have to contain all of the emotions within the physical body.  Click onto the button above for my astral body expansion technique.

I've also used the chi gong approach of guiding a client through a visualization where he is instructed to send a tap room from the base of his spine into Mother Earth so that he is grounded and able to receive the comfort that he needs.  Then I add my own twist: I suggest that he then become aware of a steam release valve on the top of his head that automatically loosens just enough to release all the pent up steam that is his anger.

Finally, a recommend that you hypnotically suggest to your client that he make a practice of putting his frustrations and upsets down in writing as they occur and sticking the written notes into a big red envelope that he has handy.  The color red represents his anger.  Further, add the suggestion that as he puts the notes into the big red envelope, he immediately feels relief as he has taken action to remove the experience and put it somewhere where it can be looked at objectively with a healthy sense of detachment.  He doesn't need to concern himself with exactly how he will process these feelings out, he can trust that his Higher Self will immediately attend to this concern once the notes enter the big red envelope.