The treatment
of anger in a trance state is very different from anger management
approaches for subjects in a conscious state in that the object of
trance anger management is to release the original cause of the anger
and re-channel the new found raw source of passion into new constructive
expressions. Traditional anger management of conscious subjects
necessitates self-control and self-control mechanisms, such as counting
backwards from ten to one, reminding oneself that there is always a
choice between anger and rational expression, rechanneling anger into
productive activity, etc.
Anger is
usually fear that the subject was taught to repress. It can stem from a
simple reaction such as a parent angry at a child who won't pick up
after himself. The parent is really afraid that he has not provided a
proper role model for the child that motivates the child to behave
appropriately.
When the
child is an adult, he carries the parent's judgment within him. He may
get mad at a friend who doesn't send a thank you card for a wedding
gift. This hides his fear that his gift and his efforts were not
appreciated because he failed to choose appropriately.
Physical
Symptoms of Anger:
Headaches, TMJ, Repititious Head Injury, High Blood Pressure,
Indigestion, and Diarrhea.
Emotional
Symptoms of Anger:
Passive-Aggressive, Silence, Withdrawal, Confusion, Trancing-Out,
Hypersensitivity to Touch and/or Loud Noises, Overwhelm, Eye Rolling,
Cynicism, Sarcasm, Nail Biting, Boredom, Depression, Stuttering and
Stammering.
Causes of
Over-Reactive Aggression:
The child was not helped to process extreme loss or trauma.
Abusive parent ... the child chose to identify with the abuser so as
not to become a victim.
Childhood survival issues and injustice.
Negative attention was the only attention.
Abandonment and rejection.
Incapable parents.
En utero or past life-origin.
Possession.
Causes of
Under-Reactive Aggression:
Too many should's imposed upon a child ... child learned to be good
all the time ... society's idea of good.
The child was taught that anger is weak as it represents loss of
control.
The child was not permitted to express his anger as his narcissistic
parent didn't want to deal with it.
The child was not allowed to be dissatisfied.
An angry
person who behaves like a child in that he expects a parent or parents
to support him needs to comprehend that he is no longer a child and that
he is now old enough to be responsible for his own safety and
protection. Help the client see the purpose of having the type of
parent(s) that he has. Help him understand the benefit in releasing the
belief that the parent should take care of him forever or until the
parent gets it right.
Help the
client give up his war with the parent. Question him about what
the parent really wants from him. Usually the parent wants to hear that
he or she was a good father or mother.
A parent who
sees her child as an extension of herself often takes credit for her
child's accomplishments, but blames the child for his failures. This
client benefits from a hypnotic meeting with his Universal Mother or
Father. The birth parents can then be viewed as the human guardians.
Use the
Body Syndrome Theory to locate where the client's body is holding
stored anger or stuck trauma relating to the origin of the stored anger.
Disconnect
cords from chakras by conducting a body scan.
Use my
Stuck Trauma Diagnostic Technique to Uncover the original cause of
the client's rage. See button above for an additional website page
on this technique.
If the client
is not ready to forgive the individuals involved in the original
offense, conduct a primal purge ritual. See button above for an
additional website page on these ritual acts.
You can always
follow these rituals up in the following session with some "mommy and
me" work. If you are not familiar with the mommy
self-acceptance work, I strongly recommend getting a copy of
Superlearning 2000 by Ostrander sisters. This book is full of
great stuff and very motivating. One of the techniques has to do
with releasing anger that has resulted form parent's unreasonable
expectations, be the expectations offensively low or irrationally high.
The book explains it fully, but the essence is that we go through a
primal shock at the moment of our birth in that we become separated from
everything that has been our sustenance and security: mom! From
that moment on, every time mom verbally or nonverbally judges us, it
causes us to feel rejected and separated from her. This activates
the original primal shock of separation and causes us to feel that we do
not deserve to receive love, nurturing, and security because if mom
won't provide it, then who will? Okay, you get the gist of it.
Here's how it works: You instruct your client to repeat after you the
following phrases with feeling. And no, he cannot change the word
mommy to mother or mom. Maybe mama, but
nothing more grown-up than that. The more resistant the client is
to the exercise, the more effective it tends to be. Here are the
phrases:
Mommy and I are
one. (repeat three times)
I forgive mommy for expecting to much of me. (3X)
I forgive mommy for expecting too little of me. (3X)
I forgive myself for expecting too much of myself. (3X)
I forgive myself for expecting too little of myself. (3X)
It's also a good
idea to teach the client to expand his or her emotional body so that the
subconscious mind learns that it doesn't have to contain all of the
emotions within the physical body. Click onto the button above for
my astral body expansion technique.
I've also used
the chi gong approach of guiding a client through a visualization where
he is instructed to send a tap room from the base of his spine into
Mother Earth so that he is grounded and able to receive the comfort that
he needs. Then I add my own twist: I suggest that he then become
aware of a steam release valve on the top of his head that automatically
loosens just enough to release all the pent up steam that is his anger.
Finally, a
recommend that you hypnotically suggest to your client that he make a
practice of putting his frustrations and upsets down in writing as they
occur and sticking the written notes into a big red envelope that he has
handy. The color red represents his anger. Further, add the
suggestion that as he puts the notes into the big red envelope, he
immediately feels relief as he has taken action to remove the experience
and put it somewhere where it can be looked at objectively with a
healthy sense of detachment. He doesn't need to concern himself
with exactly how he will process these feelings out, he can trust that
his Higher Self will immediately attend to this concern once the notes
enter the big red envelope.