Impact of Birth

What Does Your Birth Have to Do With It?

by Gayle A. North, Positive Change Coach

“Our first life experience was purposely a struggle so we would be aligned with the consciousness of the planet to learn life’s lessons through struggle and pain. We knew we had to know struggle to know what joy is.  We live in a dimension of contrast.  In order to know love, we had to create hate; in order to know good, we had to create evil; in order to know joy, we had to create pain.  It is only through experiencing these contrasts that we can fully realize who we are.  In order to experience who we are, we had to experience who we are not.  We are all pieces of God, just waiting to be awakened and fully realized.”  - Carol Tuttle, author, Remembering Wholeness, A Handbook for thriving in the 21^st Century.

By now in your life, you are aware of how some of your thought and behavior patterns developed due to the family culture you were raised in and experiences you had in your childhood.  You may have put some effort into clearing limiting beliefs and patterns that no longer serve you, but are you aware of the impact that your personal birth experience still has on your life? 

I have become fascinated with the influence of the birth process through my study of Rapid Eye Technology.  Rapid Eye Technology is one of the new energy psychology methods that make it possible to easily and effortlessly clear away old beliefs, emotional energy, and resulting behavior patterns. Through this process we can experience more of who we really are. 

When you stop to really think about and identify with your own birth process you can imagine what it was like for you.  You were conceived and grew rapidly in a very small space that restricted your movement.  You moved from that space into another space where you were scrunched, pushed, and pulled through a tremendous amount of pain and effort. 

Then from the birth canal, you came into an alien planet where the temperature dropped by 30 degrees.  You were poked, prodded, slapped, and cut with no control over anything and no ability to speak.  If you are now an older adult, your father was probably not present and you were taken away from your mother for several hours at least. And that is a normal birth!

Add to that any experience of being premature, a cesarean birth, your mother anesthetized, other drugs, induced labor, wrong sex, late birth, forceps, unplanned or illegitimate conception and you have some heavy duty energy patterns influencing your life.

Early in my coaching programs, I take people through a birth clearing.  Most people are trying to cope with issues that relate directly to their birth.  Just the transition from the womb to the birth canal leaves energy imprints.  This may leave you feeling stuck, unable to move back or move forward, and with a fear or dread of the future. 

“These old energies still vibrate in us and set us up to create life experiences that honor these beliefs,” writes Carol Tuttle, author of Remembering Wholeness.

If you were overdue, you may be struggling with time and may find it difficult to be on time for things.  A cesarean birth may have set you up with tendencies to believe you always need help or you won’t get out; you may be angry at being interrupted, and you may feel you can't do things for yourself.

If you were premature, you may find that you are always waiting for others, wanting things in a hurry, or feeling rushed or nervous.

A forceps delivery can leave you with a feeling of wanting to do things yourself but needing to be bailed out at the last minute.  "It’s difficult to finish.  People force me.  Support equals manipulation."

If your mom was under anesthesia you may have issues with abandonment and people supporting you. "My mom is never there when I need her.  No one is there for me.  I have to do everything on my own." 

These are just a few of the challenges we take on at birth.  A wounded and dysfunctional life may feel very normal because it is so familiar.  It may be all you know in certain areas of your life. 

Knowing and expressing your magnificence and your true essence is natural but it may not feel familiar.